You know you need to do something about it. But what?
Let’s talk about some ways you can reign in your mind and get yourself grounded again.
1) Go inward.
Get down deep into what’s bothering you. “Without Awareness there is no Choice” is the mantra I’ve learned from my mentor John F. Barnes. That means if you’re not really aware of what has you in a tizzy you don’t really have the power to do anything about it. So, get aware! Find out what the hell is bugging you so you can choose what you want to do about it.
Are you worried about the future? Ruminating over something in the past? Steaming over a conversation you had? Mad at yourself for how you reacted to your spouse last night? Got a full plate and you’re running ragged?
Meditation, prayer or simple breathing can clear your mind, like pressing the Reset Button. Set up a space on the floor or on your bed where you can spend 15-30 minutes uninterrupted. Put on some soft instrumental music or pick a guided meditation (lots can be found on YouTube. I’m a big fan of The Honest Guys). It’s best to lie down so you’re not having to work too much or stress your body out by sitting on the floor.
Try this: Lie on your back with a pillow under your knees and support under your head. Place one hand on your stomach and one on your chest. Now focus on your breath, drawing a deep breath into your stomach and allowing it to “puff up” toward the ceiling with each inhale, and deflate back down with each exhale. Inhale for a count of 4, hold for a count of 4 and exhale for a count of 5. The only thing you need to focus on is the sound and feel of your breath. If your mind wanders just reign it back into the sound and feel of your breath. Set a timer if you think you may fall asleep or lose track of time. This will allow you to fully experience this exercise, without worrying about time.
2) Give Essential Oils a try.
What’s really going on and causing you to feel stressed out or spacy? Are you fearful? Apply Valor to your wrists. Are you overwhelmed with your Do-To List? Diffuse Stress-Away. Can’t concentrate? Put a drop of Frankincense at the base of your head. Feeling emotional? Rub a drop of Harmony at each of your chakra points. Overthinking things? Put a drop of Grounding in your hands, rub hands together, cup hands over nose and inhale deeply. I choose Young Living essential oils because they are 100% therapeutic grade and they use the strictest methods of planting, harvesting, testing and sourcing. Check out their Seed to Seal guarantee. That to me says it all.
I start each day by setting up a sacred space in my family room with my diffuser, a blanket and pillow, and my ipad. I start by applying Sacred Frankincense essential oil to my brow, wrists and neck, and I settle in for a minimum of 15 minutes of prayer and meditation. Sometimes I allow myself 90 minutes to just soak up the quiet time and take care of myself. It sets the tone for my day and also allows me time to express gratitude for all the amazing things happening in my life. I change the oil I use in my diffuser and topically to my body to reflect my needs at the moment. My favorites include Hope, Frankincense, Forgiveness, Inner Child, Eucalyptus, Awaken, and Envision. If you want more information about essential oils, reach out to me. I’d be happy to share some information with you, including a CD or audio file, Essential Oils 101.
3) Get moving!
If you’re stuck in your head worrying about things, all of your energy is stuck in your head. Pretty soon you feel the weight of the world and your upper back and shoulders start getting tense. Instead, get grounded. Bring your awareness back into your legs. Go for a walk, or jog if you’re able. Really feel your feet hitting the ground.
Do some simple body weight exercises. You don’t need any fancy equipment to get started. If you are lucky enough to have a gym membership, then USE IT! Get to the gym and lift some weights. Really feel yourself holding the hand weights or doing some squats. Feel the sweet effort in your muscles as you move. Hop on the elliptical and get lost in the rhythm of your arms and feet pumping. Put on some music that gets you fired up about moving your body. Do some yoga. Connecting to your breath and concentrating on slowed, controlled movements will get you feeling better.
Exercise releases endorphins, which help us feel good because they relieve stress and pain in the body. Exercise also helps wash away cortisol, the stress hormone.
Ever written a letter of confession or apology to yourself? It might free you of the burden you’re carrying. Sometimes we’re harder on ourselves than others, so forgiving yourself can be so freeing. And we all know forgiving others sets you free, because really it’s you that’s held prisoner to the feelings you harbor in un-forgiveness.
5) Reach out to your tribe.
Who do you turn to for support? Maybe it’s a trusted friend, or your spouse, or a group of like-minded people on Facebook. Reach out to them and tell them what’s on your mind. Feeling heard can make all the difference in the world. You aren’t alone and you never will be, and reaching out to others reminds you of that. Even if your tribe hasn’t been in your exact shoes, putting your thoughts and feelings to words and having someone listen and empathize with you can help shift you and get you unstuck. If you want to join my tribe, I’d love to have you! You can request to join my private Facebook Group, The Healing Spot Community Here.
So, now that you have five amazing tips, what are you waiting for?
Go out and find your peaceful self again!